Should people wait until they are married to have sex?

70% of you told us think it’s okay to have sex before marriage so long as it’s a meaningful & loving relationship. It also appears that taking precautions and practising safe sex is absolutely essential to you. And a lot of you said that it’s very much a personal choice and that no-one has the right to force their opinion on others.

Here are just a few of the responses we had:

No. Although it is morally right from the point of view of many religions, I think that people have the right to choose.
No. By making such a promise it would make it harder to actually NOT do it because all teenagers know forbidden stuff is much more fun!
Yes. Because then you will know that the relationship you are in actually means something.
Yes. But only because it’s right for me. If people are really in love then they should be able to have sex before marriage if they want.
Yes. Although it’s really up to each person and peer pressure shouldn’t come into it.
No. Because I may never get married so I might not experience sex in my whole life.
Yes. People usually have sex before they’re married when they’re drunk. Sex is the furthest you can go and it’s something that you do to commit and show how much you love the other person.
No. Experimentation is the spice of life. To me it seems that intercourse is a natural part of society and should be embraced, rather than shunned. If you forbid sex until marriage it makes sex a REASON to marry, whereas it should be seen as solely a union of love, not lust.
Yes. Sex is something special that should only be experienced with someone whom you really love. It shouldn’t be wasted.
No. As long as people are careful with STD’s and contraception then there is nothing wrong with having sex before marriage.
No. Because people shouldn’t have to be bound by the restrictions of the out-dated religion that Christianity puts on our society.
Yes. It’s safer and also you will probably have a more honest relationship and be more committed to each other.
Yes. I personally want it to be a special moment and something that I won’t regret in the future.
No. I think people should be able to make their own choices since they are the master of their own body … here there is no right or wrong answer, it’s totally up to people’s own perspective and judgement.
No. More people are just living together these days rather than getting married.
Yes. Once you’re older you look for more in people than you did when you’re younger, so you can trust them more and that could mean that there’s a greater chance of the relationship lasting.
No. Why wait to have a good time.
Yes. Sex is sacred to marriage.
No. Everyone has a right to do what they want and if they have the urge they can hubba hubba if they use some rubba rubba.
No. What if a guy who had never had sex before got married only to find out he was gay? It would have saved a lot of pain if he’d had sex beforehand to really know what sexuality he was.
Yes. It would mean that much more than doing it with a boy that you’ve only been going with for a while and also, being older means that your decisions would be more mature.
No. As long as people are safe and realise it’s a big deal.
No. You have to know if you’re compatible in all ways before spending the rest of your life with someone. You may click in every way and then have terrible sex and without the physical side you’re just friends who live together.
Yes. God clearly says that is is a sin. Also it just makes sense. Why risk getting any number of potentially fatal diseases for a quick thrill and almost no teenage sexual relationship lasts particularly long, so everyone is left feeling crap.
No. It’s an individual decision and we must try before buying.
Yes. If they really loved each other they wouldn’t need to find our how good their lover was in bed before they were prepared to marry them.
Yes & No! It is up to the individual, their beliefs, values and upbringing. It is not about marriage - it is about feeling safe, secure and ready.

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